the process of healing

When you begin your personal healing journey it is almost inevitable that you will lose people. This bitter-sweet sting shows up often as a non-negotiable on each journey of self healing and self discovery. Relationships that you have may shift or will fall away all together as a natural part of the healing process. This is not a failure but a testament to your own evolution and growth with A LOT of self love.

As the process of healing begins to take full effect in your life, you will notice the losses and changes in relationships happen. Often first, is the overtly toxic connections. These are the ones that some will go to seek healing specifically for. The ones that have left a profound trauma on your heart and in your body. Once free of their tight grasps, you feel like you can breathe again with the relief and release that comes in as you move to the next layer of your healing.

Here lies the connections you have outgrown. These can feel like a love lost, or trying to fit somewhere or in a space that maybe did not serve you. "Square peg, round hole" vibe. It will often show up when you are trying to find who you are, what you like, what brings you JOY, and what support you need to keep on shifting and growing. These happen as you naturally align to find your way.

Finally the, arguably, most painful layer. The souls that you desperately want to keep. The ones that choose not to do the work for their own healing and growth. The ones who see you growing and changing and they continue to wind in their own storm because it feels safe for them no matter the destruction it may be causing. These relationships may not end, but you may recognize that the space that they can take up in your life needs to change. You may notice that that respond differently to you when they see that you no longer play it safe. You will show them their own shadows as you move through yours. As you heal, they may choose to only the the person who they thought you were. These ones are the hardest to lose, because you don't to lose them - want them to heal for themselves too.

This journey is not about abandoning others; it is about honouring your truth and creating space in your life for more fulfilling connections. Many of us have walked this path. It is okay to mourn the loss of connections while celebrating your newfound clarity and authenticity in your life.. Please reach out if you feel like you could use a guide by your side as you move with grace and resilience. I offer clarity and connection calls to hear about YOU. This is a safe (no salesy bs) space for us to connect - even if you just need to have someone listen and witness where you are right now.